Change from the inside out comes out when you say I need to change. God helps those that are willing to change. We need to ask the holy spirit to show us what is in us that doesn't bring glory to God. He is willing to reveal to us if we surrender with an open heart.
Speak to your heavenly father by saying, I can't do it on my own. Show me what is inside of me that I don't see. God will show you and he will change you as you trust him on the process.
Don't speed the process by trying to fix it. And if you are praying for others, show mercy and love until God works in their lives.
Psalms 51:3- "Create in me a clean heart, oh God, and renew a right spirit with in me."